One of my college students tried to compliment me by saying, "I'd totally love to watch your TikTok videos!" I was like, I don't have any TikTok videos, I am literally here RIGHT NOW IN FRONT OF YOU, how about that??? :-)
As always, a thoughtful and thought inducing Musing. With texts or emails, I'm generally a quick responder, even if it's just a "read receipt" type of response. In thinking about it, however, most delays involve situations where an acknowledgment doesn't seem sufficient and I get stuck trying to find the perfect, or at least most appropriate, thing to say. Unfortunately, wait too long and I'm likely to procrastinate more.
You make me realize I need to be better ESPECIALLY in those situations.
Finally, I'm reminded of a fragment of lyrics from the song Sister Golden Hair by America
In the latter situation if it helps, you can immediately acknowledge the message and then follow up saying you want more time to think about it, but will respond with more. If that’s something that would make you feel better.
As a kid, all my pen pal relationships were pretty one-sided. I'd write regular missives that were rarely responded to. Technology didn't change that; most of the same people (whom I adore!) still don't respond to my newsy updates in a satisfying way, if at all. While this still annoys me, I'm coming into acceptance about it. I figure it's not about me, that my notes are probably enjoyed and appreciated, but responding in kind just isn't part of the deal; if I don't like how I feel when that happens, it's on me to not set myself up for it. I feel less guilty when I miss a response than I used to, which I fear is an unfortunate decline in my personal civility. Thank the white rabbit for the emoji response.
Maybe this is why I like you so much! I see your engagement with your circle and it is lovely!
Awww thank you Trixie. And I think we offer the counter balance to the non-responders. But you’re right that we have to do it in such a way where it doesn’t affect us negatively emotionally.
I think a lot of us feel similarly. It can be hard to ask for more though. People only have so much time to give and I need to be more understanding of that too.
One of my college students tried to compliment me by saying, "I'd totally love to watch your TikTok videos!" I was like, I don't have any TikTok videos, I am literally here RIGHT NOW IN FRONT OF YOU, how about that??? :-)
It’s like it doesn’t ‘count’ if it’s not recorded.
As always, a thoughtful and thought inducing Musing. With texts or emails, I'm generally a quick responder, even if it's just a "read receipt" type of response. In thinking about it, however, most delays involve situations where an acknowledgment doesn't seem sufficient and I get stuck trying to find the perfect, or at least most appropriate, thing to say. Unfortunately, wait too long and I'm likely to procrastinate more.
You make me realize I need to be better ESPECIALLY in those situations.
Finally, I'm reminded of a fragment of lyrics from the song Sister Golden Hair by America
"I've been one poor correspondent
And I've been too, too hard to find
But it doesn't mean you ain't been on my mind."
In the latter situation if it helps, you can immediately acknowledge the message and then follow up saying you want more time to think about it, but will respond with more. If that’s something that would make you feel better.
It must take so much time to respond to all of us internet randos. Almost makes you feel like two normal people having a conversation 😄
Stop!
As a kid, all my pen pal relationships were pretty one-sided. I'd write regular missives that were rarely responded to. Technology didn't change that; most of the same people (whom I adore!) still don't respond to my newsy updates in a satisfying way, if at all. While this still annoys me, I'm coming into acceptance about it. I figure it's not about me, that my notes are probably enjoyed and appreciated, but responding in kind just isn't part of the deal; if I don't like how I feel when that happens, it's on me to not set myself up for it. I feel less guilty when I miss a response than I used to, which I fear is an unfortunate decline in my personal civility. Thank the white rabbit for the emoji response.
Maybe this is why I like you so much! I see your engagement with your circle and it is lovely!
Awww thank you Trixie. And I think we offer the counter balance to the non-responders. But you’re right that we have to do it in such a way where it doesn’t affect us negatively emotionally.
It’s a work in progress for me, for sure.
I love this and I completely sympathize with you on all counts.
Thank you Cedric 🙏🩵
I think a lot of us feel similarly. It can be hard to ask for more though. People only have so much time to give and I need to be more understanding of that too.
We must be kindred spirits. Your thoughts match mine exactly. Thanks for writing this!
I suspect there are many of us who feel this way. Thank you so much for reading it. 🙏💙
I think being ghosted is worse than a nasty message. You're right on the mark with this post.
I agree. A nasty message might sting, but at least you know where you stand with a person. Ghosting is just so incredibly cruel, in my mind.
Beautiful and rife with humanity and insight as always. Thank you for writing this.
Aww thank you so much Marshall 🙏🩵